
It seems that I don't have a big wish for myself this year. I mean, sure I wouldn't mind a digital SLR or a Circut Expression, but there will always be things to want. But I have a lot more in my life than I ever would've hoped for myself at 31.
But I do have a wish or two for my baby girl. In fact, my head is filled with wishes and hopes for her all day every day. (Unfortunately, it is also filled with the fears, but I won't dwell there. I can't dwell there.)
So, I've been meaning to let her know, and what better time than my birthday. And yes, this is long, and I could go on and on.
Little baby girl,
There is so much that I wish and hope for you, I really don't know where to start. I guess we'll start with the basics.
Health. Take good care of yourself, love. I'm doing everything I know how to give you the best start to healthy life, but at some point it's up to you. Walk, run, jump, whatever you need to do to keep healthy. And for God's sake, take excellent care of your teeth. If you believe nothing else I ever tell you, trust that sugar+Coke=your 20s spent with a dentist.
Love. Real love. Not that "true love" mythical malarkey that fate drops at your door. Nope, I hope you find real love. The kind of love that doesn't appear in a gaze across a crowded room, but rather builds over time, giving you faith in its validity. Real love makes you look forward to growing old just so you can share a lifetime of memories. Real love is built on mutual respect, passion, and trust. If any of these things is missing for either party, keep looking. And if someone ever tells you -- while apologizing for something stupid -- that you're too good for them, believe them.
Security. The kind of security that only a family can provide. If we do our part well, you will never doubt that Mama and Daddy are here, always. Even if you tell us you hate us and you want to run away. We will be here, loving you. I hope that when you look back at your childhood, it will be filled with happy memories. I know that sometimes you won't be happy. I can see that already in your fishflopping fury because Mama wouldn't let you eat paper. But I hope that one day you'll know that all those times that you were mad at me, it's just because I was trying to keep you safe.
My baby girl, if you have these three things, you will have more wealth than the combined Powerball lottery winners. But as long as I'm wishing here, I'm going to throw a few details in with the basics.
Value your friendships. It doesn't matter if you have 50 friends or a couple of good friends. Friendship has nothing to do with quantity and everything to do with quality. Spending time with friends is one of life's best highs. Enjoy those laughs together. You'll also need them to help you move. But if they help you move, you'll have to help them, too. That's how friendship works.
Make something. When you grow up, have a job or a hobby that allows you to create something that you can hold. Enjoy the satisfaction of your work.
Enjoy nature. Even if it's in small doses or from a window or a photograph the way your mama does, just appreciate the earth you live in and the beauty it holds. Do what you can to take care of it for my grandbabies.
Cuddle furry creatures. They have a way of knowing that you had a sad day, and they'll be there with a tail wag and a cuddle. Personally, I'd suggest a kitty or a puppy, but if you prefer a potbelly pig, well that's your business when you have your own house.
Take responsibility. Your life is a result of your choices, and you won't always make the right ones. When you make a mistake, own it, fix it, and move on. Moving on is often the hardest part.
Try new things. You know what, this is probably going to be harder for me than you. I actually dread the day you'll come home and say, "Mama, can I go sailing with little Suzy's family?" And I'll spend those hours flipping out until I know you're home safe. You know what? Maybe don't try new things. READ about new things. Your imagination can take you anywhere. Safely.
Never stop learning. Oh, sugar, I love to watch you explore right now. You are so filled with wonder. I love that look you get when something just clicks. There's always something new to learn, but some things might never click, like algebra. Don't let that discourage you. There is so much knowledge out there -- grab as much of it as you can.
Just be Lily. We're just getting to know you. I know you're sweet, and I know you love your mama and daddy. You also love to look out the window, go for walks outside, and play peek-a-boo. I know you do not like it when we the remote control away -- and I know that you have a temper that might match your mama's. I know you have a smile that can crack my crabbiest mood -- that is nothing short of a miracle. Every day I wake up and can't wait to learn more about you and watch you grow. You really are that amazing, and don't you forget it for a second.
Love you.
Mama